PENGELOLAAN KONFLIK RELASI ASMARA KARENA KEBIASAAN PENGUNGKAPAN OVERTHINKING PASANGAN MELALUI MEDIA SOSIAL TIK-TOK

Abstract

This study aims to determine individual experiences in managing conflict in romantic relationships when one of them has the habit of expressing feelings of overthinking a partner on Tik-Tok social media. This study uses a phenomenological method that understands phenomena from the lives of the perpetrators. The theories used are the Conflict Mode Instrument Theory, Communication Management Privacy Theory, and Relation Maintenance Theory. This study also uses interviews with four female informants who are actors in disclosing overthinking. The results of this study explain that each informant expressed his partner's overthinking feelings on the Tik-Tok social media which then triggered conflict. Conflicts occur because of differences in views, namely men who value privacy more by disliking negative relationships being uploaded to Tik-Tok social media publicly, while women tend to share content on Tik-Tok social media publicly that relates to negative feelings from dating relationships. Several styles of conflict management were applied to each of the majority informants using the collaboration style as an effective way to solve problems. In addition, the male party chose to give directions to the informant to reduce playing Tik-Tok by doing other activities such as watching Korean dramas or doing college assignments, and also preferred to publish only romantic content in his account compared to disclosing content. overthinking. In an effort to maintain a relationship, each partner always tries to provide what is wanted and what is needed by each, and implements five strategies for maintaining relationships in the form of positivity, openness, assurance, task sharing, and networking.